If you’re a teenage guy, you probably already know how hard it can be to ask a girl out on a date. Here are some tips on how to make the initial asking out go a little smoother (and more in your favor!
1. Get to know her as a friend first. A girl isn’t likely to agree to a first date with a complete stranger, no matter how handsome or charming that stranger is (despite what movies and television may lead you to believe). Also, if you rely purely on something like looks or charm to win her over for that first date, it leaves the door open for some more handsome/charming guy to come along and steal her away because no real chemistry has been established between you and her.
2. If you’re already in the friend zone, don’t play the friend card so much that she begins to see you as a friend and nothing more (or even worse, as such a good friend that she doesn’t want to take the risk of dating you and losing that friendship). Even as a friend, it’s OK to flirt a little.
3. Be confident in yourself. This cannot be stressed enough. If you don’t believe you’re a great guy to date, why should she believe it? Equally important though is making sure that you’re not over-confident – no one likes arrogance. Remind yourself that she’s a great girl to date as well, and you are just as lucky to go out on a date with her as she is to go out on a date with you.
4. Compliment her. This not only means complimenting her on things such as clothing, but also any accomplishments or aspects of her personality that you might admire (“I really liked how you expressed yourself on that assignment”). Compliments also make great conversation starters and precursors to asking a girl out on a date.
5. Expand your circle of female friends. This way even if things don’t work out between you and the girl you want to date, you still have the door open to other girls who might be a better match for you.
Finally, if the girl you want to date rejects you, don’t look at it as a loss but as an advantage. When someone rejects a date with another person, word tends to travel pretty fast. Knowing that she rejected you doesn’t tell other girls that you’re a “loser” as you may think, but instead tells them that you’re available and may need some cheering up. This tends to serve as a “green light” to any girls that may like you but aren’t sure about your availability or if you would be willing to date them.
Most importantly, no matter what happens, keep your chin up! The teen years are rough, but they don’t last long, and things DO get better later down the road. Keep trying… these years are the absolutely best and most important time for you to practice your dating skills.